1. One post per blog. Just like people, one site can only vote once for another site. Conditions apply.
2. Yes. go for the in content link as Google usually strips out all surrounding content such as the side bar because its irrelevant.
3. Yes. First fold is more expensive for advertising for a reason.
Tip: Try not to worry so much about the "where" and "how" many questions. Focus instead on building the best content for a specific audience that you can.