Firstly how long have you been waiting? You can expect waiting times of up to 6 months or more.
Secondly it’s possible a competitor is the editor for that directory but pretty unlikely, it more likely they have a big back log. Or they don't have an editor / active one for that section. You can always try and apply for the editor position yourself (although I've had no luck with this).
DMOZ can be a really powerful link, but it really depends on the section you are trying to get, and how many other listings are already there.
I would submit once and then forget about it and focus on content creation and other areas. Add yourself to BOTW and dir.yahoo.com.
Never hear of these “Submission services” but they sound like waste of money and time.